Stephanie Marie Fidler

February 06, 1975 - September 06, 2022


Obituary For Stephanie Marie Fidler

Stephanie Marie (Just) Fidler was lost to this earth on the afternoon of September 6th. - She was born on the 6th of February 1975 in Woodbridge Virginia to Larry Just and Diane (Sullivan) Just. After the family settled in Spotsylvania County in 1984, she ultimately graduated from Spotsylvania High School in 1993. While at SHS, she was a member of the Knights Marching Band and Latin club. Her saxophone playing was likely more notorious than notable, but she persevered and had a lot of fun and made many friends along the way. Fortunately, she did not pursue a career in music.

She briefly attended Germanna CC and Strayer College, but chose to enter the workforce instead. She dabbled in retail sales but ultimately found a home at Quantico MCB on the IT staff of HQMC, where she met the love of her life, Randy Fidler, when he joined the HQMC staff. They were married in 2000 and were always devoted to each other. In 2015, Stephanie and Randy embarked on a new adventure when Randy accepted a new challenge and joined an IT firm in his home state of North Carolina. Stephanie readily embraced the change and they settled on the north side of Raleigh.

She was content to be a stay at home spouse until she decided to try something entirely new and that took maximum advantage of her caring personality, in providing assisted home living care with Home Instead of Raleigh. She made many good friends and won multiple awards for her work and dedication to her clients.

Unfortunately for the couple and their families, they were never able to bear children. But Stephanie was mommy to many pets, mostly cats even to this day. She is the proverbial “Cat Lady” and leaves behind a black and white rescue cat named Chase, who is still waiting for her to come home, but is grieving and adjusting just like the rest of us.

Stephanie is survived by her husband, her parents, many aunts and uncles, bunches of cousins and numerous nieces and nephews. And Chase is still waiting for her return.

The service will be streamed on that day and can be accessed 10 min prior at: The Memorial Service will be streamed live and can be viewed by clicking the following links: YouTube - Stephanie Fidler Facebook - Stephanie Fidler

Flowers are welcome, for those wishing to make a memorial donations, donations are appreciated at: Safe Haven for Cats


15 Sep

Celebration of Life Service

02:00 PM

Renaissance Funeral Home 7615 Six Forks Road Raleigh, NC 27615 Get Directions »
by Obituary Assistant

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  • September 16, 2022

    Steph. We met when you were around 3 to 5 years old. Quite astute even then you called me, Nutsy Coo Coo. After your mom saved me from myself I got to watch you grow up. From Barbi dolls on through the normal stuff. I don't know. I knew nothing of children then but you were fun. Even when I was "babysitting" you, or, was it the other way around, you were sweet and sweeter. You grew into one of the kindest people I've ever known. There aren't very many people as kind and thoughtful as you are Steph. I will try to live up to your level of kindness. You set a high bar but it's a worthy challenge. Thank you for all you taught me about being kind and caring and loving and, ... I love you. Mona loves you. The entire Ash family loves you.

  • September 16, 2022

    My favorite memory of Stephanie was when she was a teenager. We were both at Maw's house. She was talking on the phone for a long time to a girl who was informing Stephanie that another girl they knew was talking bad about Stephanie. When they hung up, I suggested to Stephanie that maybe it wasnt true, and that maybe the girl she was talking to was just trying to stir up trouble. She thought for a minute and said,"Well, she IS kind of a liar....but I believe her this time!" Stephanie had the cutest way of listening with a smile and her eyes looking way off in the distance. She was smart and so classy. I believe she is with our grandmother and all the other angels. We will all be together again one day.

  • September 15, 2022

    Randy, Very sorry of your loss. I will miss interacting with Stephanie at all the fun times Gilbert's parties. She is an absolute beautiful lady with a big smile. I want to share with you this precious verse from the Holy Bible. Matthew 5:4 Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted. Please reach out if you need anything. I'm there for you. Your friend always, Vince Smith

  • September 13, 2022

    So sorry to all, prayers to all. I know there are no words that could ever make this ok. Prayers for you all. I know Steph will be missed deeply. You all have been missed deeply here. Steph is a special lady that was kind to all. Just so special.

  • September 11, 2022

    I am so sorry for your loss, Randy, Larry, and Diane, et al. Stephanie was a beautiful light in this world. I am thankful we were friends!

  • September 11, 2022

    You will always be with us in our hearts forever our sweet Steph I love you Steph


  • Pride & Unity Arrangement

    MICHAEL HARRIS sent Pride & Unity Arrangement for Stephanie Marie Fidler - September 13, 2022

    From all of us on the HQMC MCCS, Network Services Team it was such a privilege and honor to work with Stephanie. She was an incredibly smart and thoughtful woman. "May her memory live on forever "

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