John Sherman Gastineau

July 28, 1935 - November 02, 2021


Obituary For John Sherman Gastineau

On the afternoon of November 2, 2021, John Sherman Gastineau, age 86 of Raleigh, NC entered into eternal life. Although undergoing cancer treatment at Duke Hospital - Raleigh, his death was unexpected; his wife, Kathy and stepdaughter, Stephanie were by his side. While all who so dearly loved him grieve our loss, we celebrate his life and rejoice in the knowledge he now lives with his Lord and Savior.

Born on a farm in Switz City, IN on July 28, 1935, to parents Lydia and William Gastineau. John determined early on that farm life was not for him; he enrolled at Indiana State University in 1953. After two years he enlisted in the US Navy and proudly served his country as a Yeoman aboard ship sailing with the Pacific Fleet in the Far East. Upon discharge, he returned to ISU and graduated from the Scott College of Business in 1958.

Following graduation and after a brief tenure as a school teacher, John joined the Travelers Insurance Company in South Bend, IN and began a lifelong insurance career. He would subsequently relocate to Charlotte, NC and then on to Chapel Hill, NC where he was Founder and President of the Chapel Hill Insurance Agency. He later became a partner in Providence Insurance Agency and its affiliates in Raleigh, NC ultimately retiring from Relation Insurance, Raleigh, NC in 2018.

John loved life and all that came with it. A devoted husband, father, friend; he doted on his grandchildren. He was quick to laugh, dance with joy, ever eager to help a neighbor. Walks on the beach with precious Amy, his beautiful corgi, were especially enjoyed for it presented them with opportunity to enthusiastically greet and visit with a stranger.

Always a sports fan, he never lost his Indiana roots loyalty following the ISU Sycamores and IU Hoosiers. However, it was his adopted Tarheels that sustained his passion for basketball and provided the occasion to give a gentle needle (accompanied by a wry smile) to his Wolfpack friends. A long suffering Cubs believer (“wait until next year”), John was forever the optimist, infrequently rewarded, savoring every win. Zealous for golf, he would look forward to playing every day he could with his golf buddies at Wildwood Green, yet invariably at the 19th hole, frustrated, empathetically declare he would never play the game again. It was not a promise.

John had a profound affection for people and a strong desire to serve, actively involved in professional, community and service organizations and often was recognized for his contributions. As a member of the Independent Insurance Agents Association of NC, he was Chairman of the Agent's Insurance Advisory Board for the State of NC in excess of 30 years! For his dedication and leadership, he was the recipient of the Agent of the Year Award for the State of NC.

Engaged in his community, John was Chamber of Commerce President, Chapel Hill, NC; member of the Board of Directors, Village Bank, Chapel Hill, NC and Board of Directors, Wildwood Green Homeowners Association, Raleigh, NC. He valued highly the relationships developed over the years with those in the Raleigh Sports Club, Men’s Group at Wildwood Green, Rooster’s of Chapel Hill and notably the Men’s Bible Study Group at Grace Raleigh.

Service organizations provided John the opportunity to address the needs of others. As a member of the Kiwanis Club of Chapel Hill, NC, he served as Lt. Governor for the Carolina District. Active in the Kiwanis Club of Raleigh, he was formerly Risk Manager for the Carolina District and Chair of Charter Night; in recognition for his dedication to service he received the Dillon, Hixson, Hyatt and Zeller Awards. Also, John had a deep abiding commitment to the Shrine Club of Wake County and for many years served as Treasurer.

John was preceded in death by his parents, Lydia and William; brother, Robert; and sister, Harriet. He is survived by his beloved wife, Kathy of Raleigh, NC; stepdaughter, Stephanie Davies of Parker, CO; stepson, Matthew Hoyes of Raleigh, NC; son, John Gastineau of Chapel Hill, NC; daughter, Mary Barnhill (Douglas) of Chapel Hill, NC; step-grandchildren, Jordan Manning, Dreya Davies and, Shelby Hoyes; and grandchildren, Brittany, Christian, and David Barnhill.

Our family would like to thank those who cared for John during the past months of treatment (including Matthew, his “right-hand man”, who lovingly dressed his surgical wounds daily and drove him to all of his doctor’s appointments and John’s closest friend, Don Fowler, who was available for whatever the need may be) and our friends at Grace Raleigh who offered up prayers and on our behalf.

A Memorial Service will be held November 20, 2021, at 2:00 PM, at Grace Raleigh, 7041 Old Wake Forest Road #107, Raleigh, NC 27616. In lieu of flowers, please donate to the Memorial Fund at Grace Raleigh.


20 Nov

Memorial Service

02:00 PM

Grace Raleigh 7041 Old Wake Forest Rd. #107 Raleigh, NC 27616 Get Directions »
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  • November 20, 2021

    John, what an inspirational man you were to us. We will always cherish memories of all the golf tournaments we did together. Although we knew we could never win, we didn't care, just spending time and laughter together with some of the most caring and special friends one could ever have was the best part. We'll never forget dancing and great fellowship we enjoyed at the special occasions with the Shrine Club. You will always be dearest to our hearts. We love you and Kathy and will miss you dearly. Bob & Linda Losiniecki

  • November 15, 2021

    John was a lifelong friend and I will miss him very much. He was the first friend I made when I moved to Durham in NC and we managed to stay in touch with each other throughout the years of my moving away from Durham and then back in 2005. Kathy I hope you know how much I love you and John and how important you were in my life here in Durham. My thoughts and prayers are with you, and with John's family. One of the greatest, and I will miss him so very much. Mike Sullivan

  • November 04, 2021

    Beloved by Everyone! Warmest, kindest person that exuded charisma by bringing joy, inspiring confidence, shared convictions and stories with greatest sense of humor. I will never forget! My deepest sympathy, prayers and love to Kathy and family. Debra

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